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However, the book was still able to be read. Pages were more faded and discolored than they should have been. Condition should have been mentioned by seller.
I will not give it away, even to my good friends. I feel content with myself and life.There is no such thing as (complete) safety. after I reached my natural weight and stayed there, I discovered that it wasn't being thin I wanted, it was getting thin." Getting-thin is the grand illusion that masks the pain by making us believe that life will turn around, and suffering will stop once we get there. It has stopped recently. The author has the guts and nerve to tell the truth: ". It is not true. It is disturbing--I cried a lot while reading it. It is neither a diet nor getting-thin-the-other-way book.
Geneen is interweaving her stories of struggling with weight and building a love relationship. I am a bit overweight. It means I need to dive into the pain and release it.The book is full of drama--I was way too exited. Thanks to Geneen, I also know that when I suddenly have a fat-and-ugly attack and a compelling desire to lose 40 pounds before Christmas, it means that readings of my pain and fear meters are too high. Before the book I could only guess that these two vulnerable and sensitive areas of my life were interconnected. This is a book about love. Well, not even about love. It stops that grand illusion.
While I was taught from childhood that I have to be pretty and likable to rely on others for safety either through love or friendship, I now know it is a road to suffering. I am loved by a nice man. For 25 years I kept the childish idea that getting thin means being loved and safe. The book is also a keeper.
It offers a sober and sane approach. I would buy several more copies for them instead. It is sometimes painful and always touching. While the author does not state it explicitly, her story is about that comfortable and healing feeling of safety and security experienced when a person feels loved and accepted.
The chapter about the author's Model Mugging class was a revelation. Safe was the key word in my endless diets and pills and food plans and body hatred struggle. No. However, "Eating is the metaphor for the way we live," and the similarities are so painfully striking.
Makes you stop and review your own eating habits, the reasons behind them, and what triggers your bad eating habits (situations/people). This book is easy reading yet is insightful as to the motivation & reasons behind certain eating habits.
If you've ever felt hopeless because you can't keep the weight off, you can't pay down your credit card debt, you can't make a relationship work that should work - this book might help you see how inter-connected your life is. This book is about intimacy, fear, grief, and relating to yourself and others in your life. Roth uses her own life experiences and her specific relationship problems and food problems as a basis for this book, but in reading about her own insights, anyone can see themself in this book. My nutritionist gave me this book. Roth is insightful and writes in a way that is easy to read and draws you in. Then I bought a copy for five of my friends and family. Then I bought a copy. This book is not about food.
Geneen has great insight in to why we overeat and what is behind the whole thing.She uses real life stories from her life and others to help you see that we are not so differant after all and you can change.
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